New School Mk II

Argh, where to start? Well, we’ve been busy at Garrison Trout: we’ve moved house. Our lovely home on the beautiful Moray Firth coast finally sold, and we’ve bought fairly close to where we’ve been renting since August. I’ll give you the low-down on the new house and village another time, but in a nutshell: light, airy, warm, clean, functional, friendly neighbours, welcoming community, smiley people, hills and woods, rolling countryside, rural, happy, happy, happy.

It also meant a move to yet another new school for Maxi and Midi Minx. I didn’t take that decision lightly, remembering the full month that it took them to settle down in the last new school in August. And even then, we still had leg-clinging and tearful goodbyes for weeks afterwards. This time I went over to interview the headteacher first, to intercept any problems.

“[Maxi] doesn’t have Asperger Syndrome, but she shares an *awful lot* of traits with people who do”, I’d told him, knowingly. He looked a bit alarmed, but didn’t skip a beat. At the end of an hour’s chat, he’d worked out a plan to gently induct Maxi and Midi to the school. I’ve no idea if other kids get this kind of attention, but my word, what a star!

They first did a Friday afternoon at the beginning of February: just PE and Golden Time, so no pressure at all. The headteacher was in the playground waiting for them as we arrived, all 3 girls hiding behind my legs and clinging to each other. He called over a hello, introduced himself, and “Everyone knows you’re coming and they *can’t wait* to meet you”. Serious Maxi’s little face broke into a smile. I left them in his care and beetled off. I picked them 2 happy little girls a couple of hours later, full of tales of their new buddies (kids identified as caretakers for the newbies) and their new teacher.

Then they did the Wednesday afternoon before half-term. Like on their previous visit, I took them out the playground of their old school, with half a dozen of their friends sweetly waving goodbye to them (some really lovely kids there that the girls are now missing). Afterwards, they seemed just as happy and enthusiastic to start.

We had a long week at home for half-term immediately afterwards, where I reluctantly had to ignore them most days as I was packing up the house to move. Actually, that was quite a week: as well as packing and cleaning, and ignoring the lake in the middle of the living room (leaky window lintel), we celebrated The Boss’s 35th birthday and also celebrated Midi’s 6th birthday a day early so that she could open her presents on the last day of half-term when her Daddy was actually at home (he was heading back to Moray to supervise the removal men shifting from the old home).

So, the first day of the new term, on Midi’s actual birthday, and in shiny new uniforms – same colour as the last 2 schools, though! – they started school. I was more nervous than them, but I’m better at hiding it. I’d no need to worry – the head brought us all in early, showed the girls their named pegs, their trays, and talked them through the normal morning routine. Oh.My.Good.God… an organised induction! I swear I could see Maxi’s fret-lines disappear, and her little shoulders relaxed as The Scary Unknown disappeared in a puff of thoughtful explanation. At home time, the girls were full of tales of new buddies and yummy school dinners and everyone singing happy birthday to Midi.

The one thing that nearly reduced me to tears, though: I think I’ve said how long Maxi takes to eat. She’s linger over meals for hours if she could. She’s been like that since she was weaned. She just cuts and chews far slower than everyone. She likes to savour how her meals look and taste. I’ve tried all manner of bribes and scolds to speed her up, but realised that I’m on a hiding to nothing. At her last school, it felt like she was forever being punished for taking longer than 20 minutes to eat her lunch: she’d be made to bring her lunch tray to the foyer and finish it there, beside the toilets. And this was after receiving a scolding from the dinner lady. Contrast this with New School Mk II: Maxi was shovelling her lunch down as fast as she could, even though she was really enjoying it. The dinner lady said, “Oh don’t rush it – slow down and enjoy your food”. What a wonderful thing to say to that particular little girl! And even better: “Would you like me to stay and chat with you? Tell me about yourself?” I don’t think my little chatterbox could have been understood any better.


We’re now starting Week 3 at the new school, and both girls have made lots of friends. From Day 3 they’ve zoomed off in the playground and not wanted to pause to kiss their Mummy and little sister goodbye. They like their teachers, they’ve started making close friends, and the brilliant thing about living in the village: playdates! And another thing: being able to walk to school in 4 minutes flat. And a final thing: last week we had our first ever home-lunch. I picked the minxes up, raced them home to a house that was reeking of my own take of stovies, they demolished it happily (first time ever…) and walked back in plenty of time for afternoon school. There’ll be lots of home-lunches now that I need to be on a serious economy drive, and now that we can actually walk to and from school and eat leisurely in time.

Yippee!! Happy, happy, happy!

6 thoughts on “New School Mk II

  1. Fabulous to read, and well done everyone! Reminds me of when we moved to Minchinhampton when ours were 1, 4 and 7….you get to know people very quickly in a community when they are that age…it’s not the same when you move when there’s only one at home age 16! Now dust off those needles and dig out the rainbow yarn, you are in need of some “me” time!!

    • It’s very true, I’m meeting so many people because of the girls, that I wouldn’t normally. And my neighbours genuinely are superstars, too: today a very thoughtful mum invited me and Mini to a playdate because she worried that Mini might not be making friends at the same rate as her sisters (there’s no room in the local nursery, so Mini still goes to nursery in the next town along).

      I don’t think the knitting needles will be making an appearance for a wee while yet: still got curtains to (Cack-handedly) sew, kitchen units to arrive and build, around 30 more boxes to unpack / store… Soon. Soon πŸ˜‰

    • Argh, we’re so jammy! I’m sure that like all schools there’ll be things that drive me bonkers, but for now I’m so delighted and enormously grateful to the staff for the introduction they’ve given the girls. Actually, I forgot to say that Maxi and Midi were sent home from school last week with Achievement Certificates for the way that they’d settled into the school life so quickly. !! Wish I could send the school an Appreciation Certificate for being so caring πŸ™‚

  2. That made me cry… bearing in mind I am a girl who went to 6 schools and have had the experience of being to 3 schools in one school year on 2 occasions… I know how traumatic changing schools can be so am so pleased you found a caring school

    • Ooooo, ouch, it’s only now that I’ve seen my girls experience 2 new schools that I can ‘get’ why that must have been unbelievably traumatic for you. Awful, awful, awful! I think I maybe need to try to find the words to write the headteacher a letter saying exactly how he and his staff were so brilliant, to make sure this kind of introduction happens to all newbies at the school. Though I get the impression that this is how all new arrivals are welcomed. We are so bloomin’ fortunate and blessed!

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